Courting a woman vs dating
However, it does not mean it’s kind, loving or Christ-like for a man to pursue a woman and then pursue someone else at the same time (especially if he had communicated serious interest in her).
When courting a woman, a guy will usually choose to not pursue anyone else.
Among the Christian singles community, there is a lingering debate on courting vs dating and which one is best and which one is right.
If you are not familiar with courting, it is typically seen as two people getting to know one another for the SOLE purpose of getting married.
I see dating as a way of two individuals having no desire to be seriously committed. It's not for you to take matters into your own hands to "find" anything. Both people are trying to be someone they're not, instead of placing their real qualities on the table. I'm sure the most upright, man of God isn't constantly searching for a needle in a haystack.
Dating is all about "finding" when neither should be looking for the other. If you remember Ruth was working with Boaz discovered her. But in all things, on God's time it will be revealed to him.
Dating does not equal a monogamous relationship unless it is implied by both parties (Click to see my blog here) I personally do not see anything wrong with either one.