Going by the number of e-mails I’ve recieved, a few of you haven’t quite learned one of the lessons I’m always harping on here at Dr. So it’s time for me to quit coddling you and apply the hob-nailed boot of reality upside your heads. Stop me if this Craigslist blast from the past sounds vaguely familiar: You might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. Nice guys have a tendency to be risk averse and a corresponding fear of rejection.
In it, he describes how men become nice guys, what challenges nice guys have and what they can do to get out the nice guy hamster wheel. As a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 30 years, he’s helped tons of nice guys break free from their own self-defeating patterns.
I love the fact that he’s been there himself and shares his own personal journey of recovery.
My nice-guy life was filled with frustration, inauthenticity, people-pleasing, lonely nights, regret and fear—until I read a book 10 years ago that opened my eyes to how I was deceiving myself and others.
The biggest authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome is Dr. This book is in my list of top three life-changing books. He’s suffered the pitfalls of what it’s like to put other people’s needs before your own. To worry incessantly about what other people think of you.
So, now, you’re single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, “What happened to all the nice guys? Nobody is sitting around saying “I’ll call her a worthless whore. He was considered to be Hollywood’s most eligible bachelor and every gossip rag wanted to know who the woman would be who could finally tame him.